Right, let’s get this out there. I am sick of being called a ‘skinny b*tch’. Or just plain ‘skinny’ when it comes with sarcasm or meanness dripping off it.
Yes, I am tall (178cm or 5’10”) and trim. The tall bit I obviously can’t control (although I still proudly wear heels) and the trim bit is mostly because I’ve been blessed with a great set of genes (no not those jeans, the biology stuff). Yes I am drawn to healthy food options and I do live a fairly active life but I have actually tried to put on weight and mostly I can’t. I am not complaining. I’m very comfortable in my skin, the skin God gave me and I look after it as I feel we all should.
Why is it that people – friends and strangers – seem to think it’s OK to be rude about my appearance, essentially calling me derogatory names, just because I’m tall and slim?
“Oh you’re such a skinny b*tch”. Um hello, I go out of my way to NOT be a b*itch of any description thank you very much. Did I really deserve that? I’ve had that comment from friends and strangers. It’s like they assume that somehow my weight affects my personality?
I often also have strangers comment on my height. I’m not gigantic or anything and I find it weird that someone will walk up to me and say “gosh you’re very tall, what’s that like?”. Weeellll, I’ve been this way since I was 14, I breathe the same air you do, would you like me to point out your bald patch I can see from up here? But no, I know it’s not polite to draw attention to something that might make someone entirely uncomfortable!!!!!!
Some people manage to point out the obvious really nicely. A friend the other day called me svelte. Isn’t that a lovely word? Another friend called me a giraffe but at the same time was joking about being at the opposite end of the height scale. I think it’s more often largely not what you say, but how you say it. But really, let’s take the b’tch word away! Please.
You know, if I walked up to person who was vertically challenged and pushed the scales to the heavier end and called them a ‘lazy fat dwarf’ (I NEVER would just for the record) I’d probably be up on harassment charges or something. So why is there such a double standard?
Tall is just the opposite end of the continuum to short. Underweight is just the opposite end of the continuum to overweight. We’re all on the same continuum people. And yes, some people are challenged physically, but we ALL have challenges in life, physical or otherwise. Let’s not be mean, just because someone has something we perceive as ‘different’ than what we have. We’re all fighting our own battles.
And don’t get me started on ‘beauty comes from the inside’ and ‘individual beauty’. That’s an entirely different blog post that I know will come as I’m sincerely passionate society’s screwed up definitions of beauty…