This morning my dad called to tell me that our friends had turned their daughter’s life support off. Iola passed away peacefully in the arms of her mum and dad at the age of 20-months. My heart is hurting so badly for her parents now.
There was no warning. She stopped breathing in bed on Monday night and medical teams battled, unsuccessfully, to keep her alive. And now she is gone.
Iola was beautiful. She didn’t have the smoothest start to life but she had a smile to light up a room. She didn’t necessarily meet her milestones according to ‘norms’ but she was meeting them none-the-less and her parents celebrated every single one. They adored her.
My parents adored her too. Just a few days before my mum passed away she walked out to the driveway to see Iola before they went on a camping trip. My mum venturing beyond her chair was a big deal at that point. That is the impact that gorgeous girl had on my parents. Since we moved away, they often excitedly (and somewhat proudly!) told me over the phone of Iola’s visits and the new things she was doing. I think because Iola’s grandparents all lived overseas my parents saw themselves as surrogate grandparents – a role they took on gladly, as I’m sure did many others.
My Natalie would often disappear in the holidays, to be found next door hanging out with Iola and her mum. Nat would read to her, play with her – she loved her too and she is devastated at the loss of her little friend.
I don’t know what to do with this information. I don’t get it. I believe in God, I believe in a greater plan. This doesn’t shake my faith or change what I believe. But I have to ask WHY???? Why would God take such a gorgeous cherished little person? An only child to parents who battled to have her. What is the good that will come from this?
I know we can say, it’s better to have loved and lost, than never have loved at all. And I know Iola’s parents will say they wouldn’t give back the 20 months they had with her for anything. But that doesn’t make it better, it doesn’t take away their pain.
It’s just so unfair. There are people having children who don’t want children. People having children who don’t care enough to raise them well or treat them right. But this little girl, who was so treasured, is now gone from this life forever.
I don’t understand.
Rest In Peace beautiful Iola Mair. I do know you’ll be in heaven with my mum now xo